This past week, I have been left pondering the exchange between two of my children. Left in awe of the maturity and wisdom in the response of one child. Pondering how do I respond and where did this child of mine learn a response such as this? I am realizing my children are growing up and my role is changing.
You ask what did my child say?
As I was peeking out from the covers debating whether I wanted to leave their warmth, I hear pounding on a bathroom door. "You have been in there 20-25 minutes, I need the shower." I am prepared for bathroom drama. Muffled noises, I can only imagine the response as I know the name of the child on the other side of the door. And then the response, "The past doesn't matter (as when I showered last), I need to take a shower and I would appreciate you respecting that." Not said with attitude. Not said with sass or anger. Said matter of fact and respectfully.
At that moment I was so proud of this child and relayed that information. No arguing. No hurt feelings. Just to the point.
Shortly after the door opened. No bickering, drama, door slamming or hatefulness. Just stepping aside and offering the respect and bathroom as requested. A word well spoken, a soft word and where wrath could of reigned it was turned away. Without knowing it, these 2 children have left their Momma pondering and reflecting on the choices they have made. I am humbled by the maturity and growth they are both demonstrating. As I remember the impatience and frustration I often exhibit, I am grateful to see they don't always follow their Momma's example.
