Today takes the cake. I took a snooze in my chair to release the stress. Now I can embrace the lessons learned. Lessons for Fun Mom who will be 14 soon and therefore, the driving age isn't too far away. How to deal with a difficult person and stay safe when there is an automobile incident. For Daddy's Buddy that police aren't just for when you are in trouble but when your safety is at risk. For all the children, things aren't more important people. When people put things before people, especially when something is an accident, then people are hurt. We need to remember to think of people before things.
So what happened....
A trip to Michael's for a treat for the kids.
Parked.
Person in the car next to us. I tell the kids to wait for her to get out.
She doesn't, doesn't, doesn't get out of the car. She is on the phone.
Okay, Kids carefully get out of the car. Don't let the doors bang her car. Rainy and windy. Although he tried very hard, the wind got the best of Daddy's Buddy. The door hit the car. I was on the otherside of the truck. Have no idea what has happened. Collect the kids and start walking to the store. The woman starts yelling at me...
"Yes?...."
"Your boy....
"You ignoring me...
"You knew....
"You looked...
She was so convinced I was all about ruining her day. That I had been paying close attention to her. I tried multiple times to explain, I have 5 kids. When I looked her way, I was not looking at her, but my child. When I turned back towards the vehicle it was not because she said something, but that I was checking on my children.
At this point, I have sympathy for her, "I am soo sorry you are having a bad day."
"I'm not having a bad, I am having a perfect day........." and a lot more to be said.
The whole time I am thinking, whew, I am so glad you are not having a bad day, if this is what you are like on a good day. I sure hope you aren't licensed for conceal and carry.
"I am sorry, what would you like me to do to take care of this?"
Her: "There is nothing you can do!"
More of her accussations. I was obviously one of THOSE mothers. The kind who doesn't discipline, teach manners, respect. I don't supervise my kids and let them run all over. (Well I do let them run all over...within the boundaries I have set. )
I finally state, "I am sorry, but I don't think this is doing either of us any good. We are not going to be able to resolve this."
She agreed.
She tells me she is moving her car, so we don't do anymore damage.
I head to the store. She doesn't move her car. She starts taking pictures. She gets in her car and sits. She doesn't go anywhere. I call the police.
Daddy's Buddy runs and hides behind the carts... He is afraid the police are because he hit the door. He is scared and upset.
My heart breaks.
I tell him, the police are coming because the other adult is very angry and the situation can't be resolved. The police are coming to make sure we are safe. Accidents happen and people aren't always nice when there is an accident.
They show up, one is a friend from hockey and he makes Daddy's Buddy feel better.
They talk to her.
She doesn't know what she wants to do.
She is scared to go into the store, because I am in there with my children. All of this because of a car door ding? ! ?
All I can do is think, has my reputation as a MEAN MOM preceded me. Am I now, also, known as the MEAN SHOPPER?
Watch out people, I might be going to Wal-Mart tonight. Stay home where it is safe.
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