I have heard this acronym over the years. But several months ago, it was revisited in our house.
Before that even happened, last summer became the summer of "stop and think."
Kids were doing crazy, reckless things and oopsie daisies were happening and I thought I was going to go bald from pulling my hair out before I ever turned gray!
A kiddo, a dear sweet lady and I visited about this months ago...it was like aha light bulbs went off. Life was good. Then fast forward and some of my kids hit new stages in personalities, quirks and behaviors. The kind that can blind side a mother and she has NO. IDEA. HOW. TO. RESPOND. It is wrong, but how to explain it? How to teach something different? Some concepts are big and vague and hard to explain to kids. Hard for adults to discuss, there is just a knowing.
So visiting with this dear sweet lady and she remembers "THINK" from our months ago conversation. HUGE LIGHT BULB moment. LIFE. HAS. NOT. BEEN. THE. SAME. in a very good way.
All the kids have been taught it. When there is an annoyance, we just say "Think." Sometimes, it is pretty easy to figure out, but other times it takes some thinking.
Is it True? is pretty clear cut.
Is it Helpful? or sometimes Is it Honest? There is a difference between True and Honest sometimes.
Is it Inspired? but that can be difficult for a kid to grasp the concept of so we added Is it Important?
One of our issues is correcting a slip of the tongue..is it really important to address every little slip? Does it derail the flow of things? Which leads into...
Is it Necessary? Maybe it is True, maybe at times it could be Helpful, and Important but is it Necessary? In our case, sometimes it is a distraction, slows progress down, just don't need to go there right now.
Is it Kind? How is it making the other person feel? All those other questions come into play as well...distracting? slowing things down? preventing things from happening? Frustrating someone else while doing all the above? In this case, how can we do/say this and be kind?
Loving it !!!
Only a few eye rolls have happened so far.
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